The “New York Intellectuals” and Me

New York Intellectuals

Recently I’ve been reading a book titled Arguing the World: The New York Intellectuals in Their Own Words, by Joseph Dorman. It’s based on the author’s interviews with surviving members of a group that played a significant part in the thought-world – the intellectual culture – of twentieth-century America. 

These intellectuals were the children of immigrants who struggled to eat enough and be warm enough to survive, in cold-water tenements, at danger-fraught jobs in the Lower East Side’s garment district. As young men, most went to City College, where tuition was free or nominal. Another stratum, a bit less hard-pressed, went to Columbia University. My father graduated from Columbia’s future-intellectual-star class of 1925, along with his closest friend, influential literary critic and essayist Lionel Trilling. Also in that class were cultural critic Jacques Barzun, art historian Meyer Schapiro, radio personality and Book-of-the-Month Club judge Clifton Fadiman, former communist and author of Witness Whittaker Chambers and so on with other names – at one time nearly household names.

Diana Trilling, wife of Lionel Trilling, is one of the people interviewed in Arguing the World. In her memoir, she recalls that my father was considered by his classmates to be their “genius.” 

I don’t know if he was actually the class genius, or not. But he was one reason why I wasn’t fascinated by public intellectuals that I later met. They were not as interesting as he was.

For most of the group whose story is told in Dorman’s book, it goes like this. They enter adulthood as the economy collapses in the Great Depression of the 1930s. To them it seems clear that the fault for this lay in the capitalist system, whose downfall is imminent, which will precipitate the world-wide revolution predicted by Karl Marx. After which the downtrodden poor will inherit the earth – banishing all poverty, inequality and injustice. 

In City College, there were alcoves in the cafeteria where different varieties of Marxist assembled to eat and argue over whose version of the Final Battle was the correct one. The Trotskyists? The Stalinists? Most of these young people were Jews and – though they scorned religion as “the opiate of the people” – they brought with them debating skills that had been honed in the Hebrew schools of their earlier days, where immersion in argument had been a defining feature of Jewish religious training.

So what happened? Did they stay Marxists? Most of them did not. What changed them? It was quite dramatic. They had looked to the USSR – Russia after the communist revolution – as the vanguard country, the one that would inspire and conspire with its admirers to bring about the worldwide revolution. However, in the late thirties, extraordinary public trials were held in Moscow. The defendants in the Moscow Purge Trials included the most prominent communists of their time. Yet one revolutionary leader after another “confessed” under oath to having betrayed the revolution. If the confessions were sincere, what could have led such men to reverse lifelong commitments? But if the confessions were coerced? Well, that was creepier still!

Then Leon Trotsky, a communist who’d openly contested Stalin’s leadership of the party in Moscow, was brutally assassinated in the home where he had taken refuge in Mexico. Murdered for holding a dissident view of how the revolution should be conducted? Wasn’t that just what they all did with each other in the City College arguments at alcove 1?

Finally, Joseph Stalin, leader of the communist party and the Russian state, concluded a pact – an economic and political agreement with provisions both public and secret – with Adolf Hitler in 1939!

The Hitler-Stalin Pact was the last straw for most of the New York Jewish intellectuals. Step by step, they began to notice that the USA – the land to which their parents had journeyed with such effort and travail – was better, in fact much better, than the imaginary alternative on which, as young rebels, they’d projected their hypothetical visions.

They became – not revolutionaries – but liberals.

Since my parents had traveled a parallel trajectory, I read this story – filled in by its survivors in their final years – with recognition and interest. There was Meyer Schapiro, the celebrated art historian. His wife Lillian had been my pediatrician. As I’d been told, I cried for the first six weeks after I was born. Lillian recommended that my mother put a telephone book (they were thick and heavy in those days) under me. It hadn’t helped. I must have stopped when finally I got tired of crying. I sent Meyer Schapiro one of my earliest articles. It was on Hegel’s method. He called to tell me that he’d been teaching his students a similar method, of use in dating art works!

There was Sidney Hook, the pragmatist and political philosopher. He spoke at a meeting I attended – really just to hear Hook. Afterward, we talked a little. He did not know that my mother had died. (My father’s journal records Rachelle, my young mother, advising Hook, back in his young radical days, to take up writing because political action was wearing him thin!) “Rachelle too?” he said to me, learning of her death, shaking his head. About my father and his best friend Lionel Trilling, Hook said, “Henry was Lionel’s Jewish education! Before that, Lionel was …” trailing off … I finished the sentence for him, “English!” And we both laughed.

I remember writing Trilling’s wife Diana after her memoir, The Beginning of the Journey, came out. There are 13 indexed references to my parents, all rather nasty. I wrote her a letter in defense of my parents, out of filial piety. She never answered. At the time, I thought that was shabby on her part. Now I learn from this book that she was quite debilitated at the time of writing her memoir, needing magnifying instruments in order to read. She devoted her last energies to her memoir. Perhaps she never read my letter.

I knew Hannah Arendt and Jacob Taubes at Columbia, both of whom make an appearance in this book. They all made their way, by their own trials and errors, into the intellectual conscience of this country.

This morning I read that a rabbi at Columbia University has advised Jewish students, and perhaps professors too, to stay home. For their own safety, not to set foot on the campus where I, and the generation before me, walked about in full freedom. I never thought of Columbia as a model community, nor its earlier times as halcyon days. Despite earning my masters with doctoral eligibility at Columbia, I went on to take my PhD at Penn State where there was less prestige to be had but more philosophical interest for me at that time. But decisions of that stripe are intra-academic. They assume that one can go where intellectual interest leads. They are made without conscious concern for physical safety. 

Such decisions are quite different from the ones you make about coming or going where your purpose is just not to meet head on – 

the youth-coming-to beat-you-up
who are now defacing Alma Mater.


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The Real-Life Whodunits


Sherlock Holmes pictured in Strand Magazine, 1891, drawing by Sidney Paget.

Every few months, Jerry and I fly out to California (no longer a fun thing to do in current travel conditions) to get neuropathy treatments for me. The treatment, available only at a clinic out there, is innovative and appears to ameliorate my present walking handicap in modest but incrementally noticeable degrees. It’s a newly developed protocol that may now be near the stage of getting approved for insurance coverage. If that happens, it will become available to a wider public and more widely known. The transition to that new stage is partly under way now and may explain some of what happened during my five days of treatment last week.

My cordial relations with the whole dedicated neuropathy treatment team had been one of the aspects of the care provided that I particularly cherished. They all cared. They respected each other’s professionalism and dedication. They approached the conditions to be treated with skill and their patients with kindness. That the treatments led to measurable improvement, in statistically significant numbers of patients, is clear from the pending upgrade.

That being the context, it will be clear why the incidents I’m about to describe were so disconcerting.

The poet Francis Thompson writes some lines to remind our secular age that –

The angels keep their ancient places

Turn but a stone, and start a wing!

‘Tis ye, ‘tis your estrangèd faces

That miss the many-splendored thing.

If, as the poet claims, the “angels keep their ancient places,” so too – though he does not write about it – do the devils!

Let me illustrate. In the clinic’s transition phase of expansion, the staff is being asked temporarily to divide its working time between the facility I know and a new one about an hour’s drive away. As is the way with transitions, not everything runs as smoothly as it once did. Nor can every real-time decision wait for the whole staff to consider and accept it. In my own case, I was handed off to a Second Therapist (hereafter ST) different from the Creative Founder (CF) by whom I’m usually treated.

So how did that go? For the two hours that I dealt with ST, he explained to me why I was unlikely to experience any cumulative benefit from the clinic’s neuropathy treatments! To back this up, he gave what sounded like an expert’s enumeration of what he said were all the relevant factors in my case. The impression ST left was that CF, his boss, had been trading on placebo effects and grandiose hopes. Hopes persuasive but hollow – except in the case of people in whom the neuropathy was far less advanced than it was in my case. 

What effect did ST’s private message have on me? Predictably, devastating. There is something in the human cognitive apparatus that accords to bad news more credibility than good news. Besides, wasn’t ST the colleague most trusted by CF, the institute’s founder with whom I normally worked? And wasn’t it credible that the CF’s creative optimism could have carried him to the point of projecting a range of applicability for his discovery – for his innovative treatment – greater than the evidence in fact warranted?

On the following day, CF was my therapist. Of course, I asked him about every objection raised by ST – only taking care to credit these objections to an unnamed third party, someone who might have been a bystander without connection to CF’s team. CF found each and every objection laughably out of date and uninformed. None of the objections had been seriously raised since the 1970’s. Unruffled and consistent, CF then went over my case, in broad outline and in detail, giving his reasons for each step he had taken, including specific adjustments and revisions, as his own grasp of the systemic problems deepened. Both Jerry and I listened and were able to confirm from our own observation the recent step-by-step symptomatic changes he described as he’d come to a better understanding of the peculiarities of my case.

By that evening, Jerry and both felt satisfied with CF’s explanations as well as what I could confirm experientially. I said to Jerry that ST may have had other reasons, possibly connected to the pending expansion (which could lead him to leave the team) to translate personal discomfort into his weird undermining of my trust in the therapy itself. 

Thursday, when I was again entirely in the hands of ST, the sessions passed without any more undermining “confidences” of the sort I’d been given on Tuesday.

On Friday, the final day, I was again scheduled to work with CF – save for a brief interruption for a meeting, during which time ST would take over. What could go wrong? Only this: when CF returned, ST did not step back from the treatment table. Instead, he conveyed, by body language, that he was not going to relinquish control. Rather than confront his subordinate, CF decided to say that he’d be back when ST had completed the particular treatment modality ST was then employing, which would take another twenty minutes to complete. But when, after twenty minutes and CF returned, ST finally stepped back from me, he did not step out of the room! Much to my surprise, he lingered in the entrance chatting over my head with CF, about subjects unrelated to my treatment process and plainly irritating to me. When, at one point, I asked him to leave, he did not leave. And CF did not insist that he do so. ST stayed until the treatment ended – which it did earlier than had been promised. Jerry, who’d expected to be present for the final review and homework instructions, was surprised that all was over by the time he returned.

On Tuesday, ST had shaken my trust in the Creative Founder’s therapeutic credibility. After Wednesday, my confidence was restored. On Friday, ST jeopardized my trust in the Creative Founder’s moral reflexes – what you might call “character” – the normative fitness that we all strive for. It’s one of the fragile “extras” that grace a human life. It can be lost, irreparably. Or, after a loss, it can be recovered. That’s the romance of life.

* * *

That evening, our hotel was hosting an extended family assembled for a wedding in the beautiful, multicolored dress of their native India. For a moment, Jerry and I watched the bride and groom as they posed for the photographer, looking fully the part of hero and heroine in the eternal romance of the world.

It made clear the real trouble with what had happened that week at the clinic.

It spoiled the romance of the world.

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Wired for Love

“Young Girl Reading” Seymour Joseph Guy, 1877

Wired for Love: A Neuroscientist’s Journey through Romance, Loss, and the Essence of the Human Condition

By Stephanie Cacioppo

This is one of a succession of books, based on neuroscience, that I’ve been reading over the past month or two. Neuroscience is the cutting-edge discipline in which philosophers, developmental and social psychologists, as well as cognitive researchers in allied fields are nowadays engaged in pioneer work.

That being the cutting edge, it’s astonishing how dissimilar – even contradictory – are the findings that different researchers have come up with.

Here’s the hard-edged Daniel Dennett, whose life and work are encapsulated in his recent memoir, I’ve Been Thinking. According to Dennett, no correspondence can be assumed to hold between what we experience (whose cause is electrical impulses in our brain) and how the world really is. We’ve no neuro-scientific reason to believe that the red color of the cardinal bird or the bird itself – glimpsed briefly, heart-catchingly perched on our porch – was actually there. In principle, our impulses could give us the same visual scene even if we were mere brains in vats.

Martha Nussbaum also draws on neuroscience in her Upheavals of Thought: The Intelligence of Emotions but she’s more willing than Dennett to grant a degree of realism to our brain events. The emotions, as she reads the evidence, are as seriously informative as our perceptions are. That said, the human progress from infancy to adulthood remains an uphill climb, with nature leading us through one crisis after another. We go from our ultra-dependent infancy, to a next stage where we get insufficient independent space to explore and grow, and then on to shame, disgust, jealousy and envy. Though it remains possible to emerge as a grateful, empathic, wonder-filled, mature adult – that precious balance is hard to achieve and precarious. It’s touch and go, all the way up and all the way through.

Against such carefully researched, rather dire warnings, from these well-respected philosophers, I’ve read two accounts from well-credentialed neuroscientists that are – contrastingly and startlingly – upbeat! One is The Spiritual Child: The New Science on Parenting and Lifelong Thriving by Lisa Miller, who’s initiated research programs in developmental psychology of wide international and inter-cultural scope. Her finding is that adolescents all over the world, from varied religious backgrounds, go through a period of spiritual searching. In these quests, they try to work out their own, individual relation to the Ultimate. At the end of it, they may or may not return to the religious tradition of their parents. But their initial desire is to make that decision for themselves. The statistical finding of Miller’s researchers is that, if the youthful quest is encouraged rather than disparaged, the adolescents become more effective and satisfied adults.

And finally – saving the best news for last – there is Stephanie Cacioppo’s Wired for Love. The author is an internationally recognized authority on the neuroscience of social connections. What she reports finding, using magnetic resonance imaging and many other precise techniques, meticulously described in her book, is that there are “regions of the brain” … including “more sophisticated parts … involved in conceptual thinking, metaphorical language, and abstract representations of the self” activated by romantic love. Romeo and Juliette type love! Love for the one and only. There is a kind of self-expansion in romantic love. And there are well-confirmed, measurable health benefits.

So who’s right? They can’t all be right. Or can they? I suspect that a good deal hangs on how one makes the call in such a case. Long ago, our family friend William Ivins, then curator of prints and art authority at the Metropolitan Museum of New York, showed us a succession of engravings by copiers from Germany, France and Italy, each purporting to reproduce a certain art work. Each copy showed the unmistakable influence of a particular cultural way of seeing the same art work. The German one looked “German,” the Italian one looked “Italian,” and so forth.

The question is, as Bill Ivins summed it up, 

“What did that

damn thing

look like?”

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Overloaded

overloaded

 

Within the past three days, here’s what’s been happening: I’ve ridden and absorbed advice from an insightful mare named Star, talked for a long-distance hour to an Israeli cousin in Vermont whose life has required her to make her way through thickly tangled layers of family fate, shared an hour of Torah Study by zoom with fellow students surprised by the death of a member of our group, spoken for an hour’s long-distance call to Chicago with a woman with whom I’ve been friends since we first met on our Fulbright year in Paris, and lastly had a trans-Atlantic visit by zoom this morning with a British philosopher friend in the U.K.

As a result, what I would really like would be to sit cross-legged in deepest silence for at least 12 hours.

That said, is there – can there possibly be? – any upshot that would harmoniously combine these consequential but quite disparate encounters? Can I somehow pull it all together? 

Let’s start with Star. She’s a “lead mare” who, in the wild, would take charge of the herd. She’s vigorous. You can’t go to sleep or daydream on her. Her messages (as translated by the young woman horse-whisperer trotting alongside) were strong, decisive and unambiguous. She’s apparently pegged me as a rather decisive character too. Says I should not pretend otherwise.

Next my Israeli cousin. When I first met her, at the home of her parents (my first cousin and his wife) in Tel Aviv, she was a long-legged, tanned beauty. When I last saw her in person, at the Bar Mitzvah of her sister’s son, she was still a beauty, though not of course (on that ritual occasion) showing so much leg. She’s older, has turned out highly competent, and multi-talented. Through the years, we’ve met only at long intervals. Her grownup pathway has traversed large, tragic losses. I’m grateful that, after all the life-storms, we still could talk in so loving and trustful a way.

At Saturday morning Torah Study, the group spoke up about our lost study companion, each in turn remembering. One by one, the speakers proved almost startlingly eloquent. We decided to write up what we’d spontaneously said and give the written record to his bereaved family.

With my Fulbright friend last night, we’d begun as woman friends before real life (aka “Life”) had happened to either of us. In Paris, we read Simone de Beauvoir’s Deuxieme Sexe at a time when American young women thought of feminism only as the movement that, long before our time, had got women the right to vote. All my American women friends in Paris read The Second Sex in French (it hadn’t yet been translated) and together pondered it. Before de Beauvoir, we hadn’t thought of our feminine situation as something requiring a political remedy.

So, last night, I asked my friend, what happened to each of us when we came home from Paris? How did reality compare with what we expected – or hoped – would happen?

For each of us, when we returned to our respective home cities, it was as if we’d walked into an up-and-down raking-over by enemy fire. The life we resumed turned out far, far harder than we’d anticipated. Yet she and I had each begun with shared romantic hopes – unlike our other women friends in Paris – and we’ve each essentially retained the attitude that we had at the beginning.

What about my English philosopher friend? Although not himself Jewish – of quite bloodthirsty Viking descent from what he tells me – we share a common concern about the shattering storm of anti-semitism that’s swept the planet since October 7. We agreed that God had made him non-Jewish so that his published anger and concern would not be discounted as special pleading.

So the three days have all been fine. The trouble is that any one of the encounters I’ve cited would have supplied enough emotional impact and food-for-thought to last me over the past three days and beyond.

As things stand, and as I’m constituted – with my thin skin and few natural filters – 

too much of a good thing

is still

too much!

 

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Introduction to Womanhood

Womanhood
Illustration by Marguerite Gérard, 1787
Les Liaisons dangereuses by Choderlos de Laclos

Lately, I’ve been going through a medley of sources on Woman’s condition. 

Est-ce que vous ne plaignez pas

 le sort des femmes?

asks a character in a play by Alfred de Musset way back in 1833. Do you not pity the lot of women?

I am not sure if I pity women more, or men more, but there is, I am pretty persuaded, something pitiable about the female and male conditions in our culture at the present moment.

To see this, let me set out a few initial suggestions about the shaping of a human life. First of all, we live and get our bearings in a world of desire. Assuming I can access my desires directly – they not being learned about from somebody else or come by at second hand – and assuming I’m old enough to act on a legal, grownup preference, here’s how it goes when we live and get our bearings in a world of desire.

First, so far as I can tell, there is something I want to be or do more than anything else. I mean something feasible. (When I was little, I wanted to be a deer. That’s not feasible.) Ordinarily, I’m not absolutely sure that x is my predominant desire, but I’m as sure as I can manage to be at this point in my life. At the setting-out point, let’s say. 

So what now? I act on it, or act in such a way as is most likely to fulfill that desire. Now what? Obstacles present themselves, blocking or forcing deviations from the straightest path to the desideratum. The obstacles may come from within me, or from outside, or both. That’s to be expected. This is not a smooth world. It’s the terrain of resistances. In coping with them, I may have to scale back my ambition, or go to Plan B, its nearest replacement, whether the fall-back proves provisional or permanent. But I’ll never know whether Plan A was achievable, if I don’t set out trying to achieve it.

Along the way, as I course-correct and persist, I’ll be testing the sincerity of my desires and what they actually come to, in real-life terms. Meanwhile, should some duty, unsought but inescapable, relegate my original hopes to the memory bin, I’ll still know why and how that happened. I will keep the story of my life in view. I will live a sincere life.

Among the books that figure in my recent researches about women is a collection accurately titled Short Story Masterpieces by American Women Writers. These fictional stories proceed chronologically, first in late-nineteenth-century settings. The one I’ve read most recently, takes place around 1920. So far, I’ve read half of them. In the stories I’ve read, cultural norms, including those affecting women, had fixity. Feminism is not a theme. The women writers are almost breathtakingly intelligent, observant, and uncowed. They see what they see and they tell it straight. They don’t tilt the scene so as to favor their female characters. The sympathy of these writers, one senses, has to be earned. Nobody is more perfect than reality permits, or gains something without paying the price of it. These constraints allow the writers to shape characters we will remember with the precision imposed by reality. They were just so and not otherwise.

Alongside the fictional stories, I’ve just finished a nonfiction book titled Dumped: Stories of Women Unfriending Women. It’s a contemporary collection of reports, of varying length, by women who tell how they were dumped – usually by women they thought were their closest women friends. Typically, the dumping is done without explanation. Mostly the writers were very hurt when this happened – and they still are. So far as I can see, in most cases no lesson was learned and no informing context supplied, not from the family background nor from the victim’s life purposes.

In contrast to the fictional stories from an earlier era, here the cultural backdrop has dropped out and the victimized women do not try to replace it. Perhaps some medley of psychological theories lie back of their hangdog passivity. They’ve been told to “get in touch with their feelings” and that’s all they know how to do. They don’t know what’s missing. They believe they can live lives devoid of the search for purpose, and ask no more than to have friends with whom to share their stationary lives.

Finally my researches touch the academic sphere. On the recommendation of an academic feminist, I’ve begun to make my way through a book titled, Gender Trouble. It’s by Judith Butler, who is said to have provided the foundations for current, cutting-edge theoretical thinking about women. So far as I can make out, the message of this book is that the category of “women” is so enmeshed in unequal power relations that it pretty much drops out of use for Butler. And so does “gender,” for similar reasons. All these distinctions are the shake-out of unfair power relations. Even to apply them, in a context beyond the local one, risks subsuming the relations – that are internal to disparate cultures – under the oppressive dominance of one’s own. Language itself can only be wielded provisionally, in temporary alliances for the purpose of achieving some practical, near-term victory over hegemonic oppressors.

What’s happened? What’s wrong with these developments? What’s missing?

The dumped women, who can’t figure out why their bosom buddies dropped them, were not living their stories. Their intimacies were static, their hurts static, their raw reports devoid of purpose. Where were you headed, girl? What threw you off your track? What was your track? I am not trivializing the pain. But even pain needs a context.

As for Judith Butler, she seems devoted to the project of dispensing with maps and methods for assessing which road to travel or the distance traveled. I do not know why this relentless, tireless, ubiquitous befogging has been deemed the cutting edge of feminist thought today.

Because I loved my mother, I have a natural sympathy for other women. However, with a woman who takes all the escape routes, directional arrows and exit signs off the path, I would keep my hand on my wallet.


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Seismic Shifts


Before the Curtain Call by Edgar Degas 1892.

While I was getting ready to write this column, several earth-shakings were rattling around me. For instance, I’ve just spoken by phone with a dear friend. She is facing the moment when the medical team has run out of Things to Try and her husband’s dangerous illness may be tipping off the Edges of The End. 

Meanwhile, on another front, judging from my sources, the breaking news re the new American anti-semitism are so extreme, bizarre and unfathomably wicked that well-informed, credible observers are marking the end of the American-Jewish Vacation from History. It’s back. The damn thing is back. We thought we had left it behind.

And yet, and yet – despite this in the foreground and that in the background – my own story has lately acquired some unexpected features. These brand-new and still-to-be-assimilated features are what I’ll be reporting and sharing with you here.

For openers, I’ve become aware of God’s Presence to a degree from which I’ve felt blocked from realizing – self-shielded? – up to now. One of the accompanying changes is an intensification of perception. Particularly out of doors. Like the moving aside of a curtain to disclose the stage lit up behind it, this change has allowed me to notice a world more intensely colored and heart-catchingly beautiful than I’d been able to see before. Or perhaps had not seen since I was quite a small child. 

A second change, just as surprising, is a new-found ability to roll with the punches. Here’s one example: in recent weeks, lo and behold! I’ve been unceremoniously dumped by a woman friend of twenty years. I don’t know if more “ceremony” would have made the dumping any better, but the lack of ceremony (peppered with a slew of phony excuses) makes it pretty abrupt. This is actually a new one in a lifetime of experience with women friends. Ordinarily, I’d call it shocking. The next thing I would normally have done is to brood over it, turning it up and over in my mind, trying to think of different ways to reconstruct and construe what happened. 

Instead, I’m taking it in now the same way I take in plain facts like the changes in weather in the month of March. Where before I would have felt the dumping as my responsibility to repair or cure, instead mentally I let her go as soon as I saw what she was up to. Not worth thinking about. So … I don’t. Go figure.

Then there’s one more change, the third change, which may still be ongoing. At present, this one seems unfinished, though perhaps they all are. It’s hard to define, but it’s something like trust in the working-out of life, without having to keep it all under control, and without feeling never- sufficiently-caught-up. 

As it happens, I took up riding again this week. Normally, if a horse dumps you, at least it won’t be with phony excuses. So I can describe the third change as a sense of riding with a looser rein. I note somewhat less background fear of the uncertainties of life, the ones that may lie ahead. More of a feeling of faith in the prospects of life, trust in the future in a broad sense, riding the flow-in-time-and-space, going along with the dynamics of life. 

The upshot of all these changes? It seems to be an enhanced tolerance for my own life rhythm – 

its ebb and flow,

its native nature.

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Women’s Knockout Fights

Womens’ Knockout Fights

In Les Liaisons dangereuses, the 18th-century French novel of cynicism by Choderlos De Laclos, the seductress goads her partner in erotic predation to break off his affair with the lady whose virtue had been surrendered to him. His break is effected in a letter that his female co-predator dictates. When, later, the seducer realizes that he did love his victim, he confides to his co-conspirator his hopes of winning her back. However, his confederate informs him that the case is quite hopeless since his letter breaking it off was composed by a woman and … 

women know

how to strike at another woman

irreparably.

Recently, I’ve been thinking about sisterhood and its potentially destructive power. With regard to illustrative incidents in my own life, I’ve been wondering, what was really going on? Since women are subtle, rarely putting all their cards face up on the table, the answers aren’t obvious.

Take my own case, in the aftermath of the death of my parents. They’d been unusually good and interesting people. Around them a circle of friends had gathered who, so far as I could tell, loved and enjoyed their originality and moral authority. I took for granted that these relationships, most especially the friendships with the colleagues, would continue on the same firm footing after my parents were gone.

My closest inherited woman friend, also a philosopher, was single by choice, of Viking descent, and could spend entire summers alone among her ancestral Nordic fjords. She was not interested in ethical judgments, living in a space that was, as she saw it, beyond good and evil. Whereas I loved cafes and museums. We never tried to change each other but enjoyed what she called our “oppositeness” – in a candid, intuitive closeness that it would never have occurred to me to question.

I noted one change after my parents’ death: a relative of mine – not a philosopher – had taken to attacking me behind my back in some of the venues we had shared during the lifetime of my parents. 

It had been the custom of my Viking friend to host a party every year whose main guests were other philosophers. As a matter of course, I’d be invited too. This year, knowing of my problem with the relative, my Viking friend checked with me as to whether she should invite her to that annual party. I did not think it fair to exclude my relative from the party merely because she was at war with me. So I said yes.

That turned out to be a mistake. My warring relative entered the party scene with an escort, not with any air of pleasure at being invited, but with a look of theatrical outrage – as if she were the victimized party.

My Viking hostess appeared to miss the aggressive intent of such a display. Instead, she appeared to take it at face value, remarking to me afterward that, so far as she could see, my relative believed herself to have been the wronged party. Subsequently, taking her “misreading” further than I would have thought possible, my Viking friend persuaded a different hostess – whose husband was also a philosopher – not to invite me – but to invite my aggressive relative instead – to their philosophers’ party. The evening after that party, I happened to walk into a neighborhood restaurant where I found the non-inviting hostess dining with my relative-on-the-war-path, now joined by my Viking colleague – all looking like a conspiratorial threesome caught in the act. 

There is a lot more to that story, but by now the plotline must be clear. Wherever the relative-on-the-war-path went, she carried fictional tales discreditable to me, that to my amazement were credited by people who knew no evil of me! 

The same sort of defamatory gossip eventually separated me from the circle of my parents’ New York friends. While this multi-tiered episode was going on, I was not surprisingly diagnosed with cancer. After the rigors of treatment, the threatening illness did not recur. That may have been because I took the precaution of ending every last one of these betrayed friendships.

It’s been many years since the events occurred that I’m retelling and they are now – along with the hurt of them – safely in the past. But in another sense, the past is present because remembered, and still holds its opacities.

What do I think really happened? First of all, the world’s contents do include intelligent malice. Such malice has influence not merely because its fictions can sound credible but because the capacity to generate defamations registers as power. Those who come in contact with felt power don’t necessarily ask after its pedigree – whether its claims are true and authentic as opposed to barbarously false.

They ask … who is stronger?

When, in a gracious spirit, I gave my Viking friend the go-ahead to invite my antagonistic relative to her party – gave it on the grounds of fairness – and then did not forcefully and persistently fight her “misreading” of my relative’s pretended victimhood – my Viking friend read the performance of social aggressiveness as strength. Which (in a way stupefying to me) it was.

Whatever took shape later, when the consequences had gathered momentum, it was likely that my Viking friend had not initially meant to do me harm. She knew many varieties of discernment, but moral discriminations had never been among them. She could no more wield those than I could spend a summer alone by a fjord.

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Among the Feminists

The Two Fridas by Frida Kahlo, c. 1939.

This afternoon I’ve spent catching up with recent feminist theory, summarized in “Feminist Perspectives on Sex and Gender” in the online Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy

I wrote one of the first articles on feminism to appear in a philosophical journal (“Feminism Without Contradictions” in The Monist), and introduced a regular course, “Philosophic Foundations of Feminism” in the Philosophy Department at Brooklyn College. Though I declined to join in setting up Women’s Studies as a separate department at BC, and most of my subsequent work has been on other topics, I share the concern that most of us have about where current thinking about women – about the sexes and feminism – is taking us.

The Stanford article covers five exploratory decades, starting in the 1970’s. One question runs through it: 

How much of the male/female difference

is the product of social conditioning,

and how much is biological?

All the feminists distinguish the biological layer, which they call “sex,” from the societal layer, which they call “gender.” And they all labor to widen the realm of “gender” (which is subject to rearrangement) and narrow the domain of “sex” – which is less receptive to modification.

To stretch the gender realm, feminists have pushed for gender-free toys, for fathers’ (as well as mothers’) equal involvement in child care, also for not pushing boys toward rough sports while relegating girls to dolls and tamer games.

For one writer, whom I’ll call the Power Feminist, gender differences reflect society’s power hierarchy. One of her proposed cures was to ban pornography, whose theme she saw as dominance and subordination. 

As it happens, I had dealings with the Power Feminist at a time when I was trying in vain to get feminists to protest the brutal rape of a credible woman whose interview I had watched on NBC. Her alleged rapist had been a popular official at the top of the American power structure. The Power Feminist I’d contacted told me that she would lend her name to the protest I was trying to organize, provided I contacted the victim and secured her consent. When (perhaps to the PF’s surprise) I was able to locate the victim and get her grateful consent, the PF said she was sorry but she had to leave town in a terrible hurry.

So the PF had prompted me to awaken the hopes of a woman who’d been victimized in a ghastly way – and then showed no compunction whatever in dashing those hopes. It’s one of my worst memories.

To go back to the movement’s timeline, it was visited next by feminists who claimed that oppression, patriarchy, etc. were differently experienced depending on your race, class, sexual orientation and classificatory “fit” into the biological categories of male and female which were, it seemed, less rigidly fixed in nature than in social practice.

On the other hand, if most biological distinctions are social – pertain to gender – and all gender distinctions are oppressive, what exactly is the domain of feminism? Maybe there are no such things as women – and so, there is nothing to liberate! Or perhaps the goal of feminism is merely to make such entities as “women” disappear.

Coincidentally, a memory comes to mind. I am one of the guests at an expensive New York restaurant called “The Top of the Sixes,” where a wealthy New Yorker is hosting a dinner in honor of his wife. She’s a well-known feminist. I’ve known her since I was a teenager. She’s a lovable woman who’s done a fair bit of good in the world, for many women – me included.

At my dinner table, the adjoining seat has been reserved for a Founding Mother of the feminist movement. She arrives late – too late to get dinner. I go into the kitchen where I persuade the staff to put a last plate together, which I then bring to her. As we listen to the toasts and brief speeches, enjoying the celebratory spirit of the evening, I remark to the Founding Mother, “It really is ‘feminism without contradictions.’ I am thinking of the article I published in earlier years of the movement, though of course the Founding Mother has no reason to know about that.

“What are you talking about?” she snarls at me. “I bet you don’t even know what a contradiction is! You live your whole life in cliches!

I get up to wander about the restaurant floor, in shock. Along my wandering way, I see an editor who’s a friend and tell her what the Founding Mother just said to me. “Oh,” she shakes her head sympathetically, “you’re the last person about whom anyone could say that she lives her whole life in cliches!”

Later that year, I learn from my feminist friend – the one who was feted by her husband at The Top of the Sixes – that her marriage is breaking up. What is more, the Founding Mother, who lives in the same New York apartment building a few floors down, has become a chum of the soon-to-be-ex-husband and together they’ve spent time exchanging nasty confidences about her, the soon-to-be-discarded wife.

When I meet the by-now ex-wife for lunch, she tells me of a new fashion that her feminist friends talk of adopting: 

safety pins

clipped all over one’s skirt

to ward off men.

“Do you still believe that you’ll find true love?” she asks me.

“Yes,” I nod.

“Well, if you find him, I’ll believe in God.”

I did find my true love, and you can believe what you want. But he was not a referral from the feminists.


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Is Spirituality Natural?

spirituality natural

Peak in the Cirque of the Unclimbables, Canada. Photo by Tom Frost.

In last week’s column, I visited the phases of our human development, from infancy to adulthood, as assembled by philosopher Martha C. Nussbaum in Upheavals of Thought: The Intelligence of the Emotions. Despite my own high regard for Martha Nussbaum, I found her “phases” rather dispiriting. As helpless infants we’re anxiety-ridden, because we have no power over our care-givers. They come and go as they wish, not necessarily as we wish. Then shame comes into our consciousness, supposedly as a side-effect of our vulnerability. Next disgust enters, as we internalize societal mores. After that, we have jealousy and envy to deal with, as we jockey for place in the world.

Finally — if these and a few other ingredients get mixed at the right time and in the right proportions — we can end up with a fine, generous-minded, high-functioning grownup character. Or not, if the mix wasn’t done right.

As I noted here last week, I didn’t recognize me in MCN’s developmental story, grounded though it must be in the well-credentialed researchers whose findings she cites. So, does that mean “The Science Says It”? What should I make of that? Should it overrule my remembered experience? Have I been outvoted?

Looking for light on the Science question, I read Philip Kitcher’s What’s the Use of Philosophy? (Oxford 2023). Here’s the back story, as Kitcher tells it. When the 20th century dawned, it appeared that Science was the magisterium from which all rightly formulated questions could be answered. If you couldn’t put your question in a form answerable by Science, it was likely either to be nonsensical or else detritus deposited by pre-scientific confusions still awaiting cleanup. So philosophers of science set themselves the task of determining the sorts of entities that were eligible for scientific explanation and the sorts that should be excluded as ineligible.

How’d that work out? After careful and laudable investigations, stretching over the course of the whole twentieth century, it became obvious that there wasn’t one all-embracing-umbrella discipline called “Science.” The magisterium wasn’t there. Instead, there were many sciences, each with its own criteria for inclusion and exclusion plus its own investigative methods. Nor could this plurality of sciences undergo reduction from the more complex down to the simpler level (e.g. with life sciences hopefully describable in terms of chemistry) till one landed at physics on the bottom level — foundational to and explanatory of the ones above. The sciences just didn’t seem to work in that layered way.

Where might present-day philosophy operate, according to Kitcher? It can make clarifying contributions to the work of laying out methods and boundaries for the research programs in the sciences and other disciplines. Additionally, it can help people make sense of their life experiences so as to “refine and revise their ‘plans of life’ … .” There remain new topics to explore, methods for framing them and multiple upshots — depending how each topic is framed and what method proves revelatory or fruitful.

Meanwhile, I’ve still got MCN’s developmental psychology jangling round in my brain. So, nerved by Kitcher’s conclusions, I’ve begun reading a very different book with a very different take on developmental psychology. It’s by Lisa Miller, Professor of Psychology and Education at Columbia University. She holds other titles, seems well published in professional journals and, together with colleagues, has herself initiated and carried through “extensive and groundbreaking research,” including “advances in our understanding of brain science… neuro-imaging, lengthy interviews with hundreds of children and parents, case studies, and rich anecdotal material … .” So, whatever the worth of her findings, she’s not getting her results at second hand. She’s opening doors that were closed heretofore.

What has she found? That children of widely different cultures whose “natural spirituality” is appropriately supported, are “40 percent less likely to use and abuse substances, 60 percent less likely to be depressed as teenagers, 80 percent less likely to have dangerous or unprotected sex,” and “more likely to have positive markers for thriving and high levels of academic success.” The title of her book is The Spiritual Child: The New Science on Parenting for Health and Lifelong Thriving (St. Martin’s Press, 2015).

What do I make of such findings?

Personally,

I think they’re on to something.


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Psychology! Psychology! Psychology!

Merle Oberon and Laurence Olivier in Wuthering Heights, 1939.

Back in the days when I was coming into the bloom of womanhood, the boys used to tell me that they knew what I needed. Though the heyday of parlor psychologizing may have passed, that’s still the trouble with it. They don’t ask. They know.

In the column before this one, I mentioned reading books by philosopher Martha C. Nussbaum who writes about emotional intelligence. I was very glad to make her acquaintance, since she seems to fill in some of the blanks on the great map of experience that philosophers hope to describe and explain.

In Upheavals of Thought: The Intelligence of the Emotions, MCN observes a reciprocal relation between our theories and our emotions. On the one hand, theories shape emotions, but also we meet realities that only feelings can discern. 

Here’s one example: my Self-Defense for Women teacher taught us to pay attention if we feel reluctant to get into an elevator holding only one passenger. Aggression has an odor, which we may be sniffing fearfully, even if we think our reluctance unreasonable.

I also liked MCN’s reminder that we are not stuck with our present furniture of concepts and percepts. Ordinarily we’re capable of revising both. We do live and learn!

So I read along eagerly. Till I came to her account of developmental psychology. There she reports what she finds to be the present consensus about stages of human development, from earliest infancy to adulthood. I’ll tell you what they say, as she reports it. Among animals, we have an atypically long and helpless infancy. We need protection, food and comfort, yet we can’t control who gives it or for how long. Also, before much time passes, we’ll want our care-givers to get back and allow us the space to explore and master our surroundings.

It’s complicated, but so far so good. But then, two ugly emotions obtrude: shame and disgust. Shame seems primordial. She connects it to our vulnerability. [This doesn’t ring true to me. I’m vulnerable from my neuropathy; it hampers my walk; but I don’t feel shame about it. From the Biblical story of Adam and Eve, as well as from personal memory, shame seems to me connected to sex; but what do I know? MCN has got the report from the experts.]

Now what about disgust? This is the reaction to a perceived contaminant which we want to flee or expel. And, she reports, it’s not natural! It occurs in connection with stuff deemed offensive by parents and society. [That doesn’t ring right to me either. Cats seem rather modest about excretia. If disgust were merely conventional, wouldn’t there be some societies that just relish rolling around in it?]

Next on the upward climb toward adulthood, we meet two more bad guys: jealousy and envy. In jealousy, we want to get rid of the competitor; in envy, we’ll settle for getting in front of her.

So what does the happy land of maturity look like? Once there, we accept boundaries, we allow ourselves to trust, we feel gratitude, empathy, wonder at the richness of the world of experience, and lo! a sense of justice. This seems a rather fine silk purse to get out of the primal sow’s ear … 

I hate to say it, but this whole developmental story didn’t ring bells with me. Looking back, I can’t recall wanting to kill my rivals. (In fact, I stopped winning foot races once I noticed that some people had to lose.) I can’t recall wanting to be the center of the universe. And I didn’t want to wipe competitors off the face of the earth. 

Here’s a case in point: in Hilltop, the summer place where my family went in New Jersey, the landlady’s son-in-law owned a pet monkey named Benny whom he hoped would make his fortune someday in Hollywood. This son-in-law was named Lenny. My mother, who didn’t have a good memory for names, would ask the landlady, “How’s Benny?” when she meant to inquire after Lenny. Anyway, I didn’t like Benny one bit. He would pee on people from the treetops. But I don’t recall wanting even Benny wiped off the face of the earth! So, maybe I’m in Heavy Denial. How would I know?

Anyway, moving right along, let’s look at one of MCN’s examples of emotional life, this one drawn from Emily Bronte’s novel, Wuthering Heights. In this romantic English tale, appearing first in 1847, an adopted darker-skinned child, Heathcliffe, grows up to take revenge on his adoptive family’s natural children, who bullied him in childhood. Through the novel runs his early passion for his foster-sister Catherine, who – despite the intensity of their bond – marries for social prestige and safety. The whole novel is marked by excess: Heathcliff’s willful schemes of revenge, the suffering he brings down on rivals, the lovers’ never-quenched, lawless longing for each other, and the peace that settles over the survivors only after the deaths of all who first set the drama in motion.

It’s hard to see what can be learned from this tale of passions going to the end of their string. However, to my surprise, MCN settles on Heathcliff as the novel’s hero! In his “entirely unguarded love” she finds “a deeper sort of generosity and the roots of a truer altruism. …The capacity to throw away all self-centered calculation is at the heart of real altruism and authentic … morality. …The novel suggests that only in this deep exposure is there true sacrifice and true redemption.”

I beg to differ.

The love between Heathcliff and Cathy has its ferocity because it plays out under an iron sky. 

Passion without transcendence

morphs into cruelty.

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