
Johannes Vermeer, Woman Holding a Balance, c.1664
The title of this column tilts and teeters into a complaint so hackneyed – so yesterday – that even alluding to it might put one at social risk among the smart set.
This although just a few years back, mores had been different. Then, identity problems were very much in style and, if you didn’t have one, you were better off hiding a fact so socially inconvenient. If you were white, male and heterosexual, your cover story was that at least you knew how to joke about your multiply-compounded but unseemly privileges.
In the hierarchy of accusations, the worst thing you could be accused of was racism. As for Jews, in the circles of my youth, Jews wore their identity like a badge of honor. After all, Jews had been the people most consequentially targeted by a Nazi regime that depicted humanity in terms of races – superhuman versus subhuman.
So I grew up thinking of Jewish identity as talismanically protected – at least from the standpoint of any decent people with whom one would want to associate. Since I had a number of Israeli relatives then at the front in the fight for Jewish survival in the homeland – and was also said to be descended on the maternal line from 40 generations of rabbis – all that went to support my sense that I owned an identity that, for decent people, was unassailable.
When the victimes du jour became persons of color, I felt happy to welcome them to their newly-privileged condition and had friendships of greater intensity and candor with black philosophy students than my colleagues generally had. At the same time, because of my own personal experiences (retold in Confessions of a Young Philosopher), I didn’t hesitate to discourage student friends who were black from playing The Victim Card. I thought it was a species of con artistry and they could do better than that with their lives. So my advice to young people of color was to do what, in their place, I would have been well advised to do – and to avoid whatever I would have been, in their place, wise to avoid doing.
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It was with such a background that I could fathom the high level of organization, money, propaganda and expertise that could have led students all over the world to rise as one person on October 8, 2023 to cheer the massively multiple rapes, beheadings, rippings of babies from wombs, roping together of whole families to set them afire, and other violations of humanity’s well-recognized norms. All that cheering from students and their equally ecstatic professors must have taken years of costly preparation. The whole phenomenon had caught me pretty much unawares.
I’ve been absorbing all this – the changed world – in successive waves, since it happened. I don’t have a thick layer of skin, much less thicker layers of denial, to serve as buffers between me and the changed reality that’s out there.
Being a philosopher by training, and perhaps by nature, I can’t deny the undeniable. Being a thin-skinned woman, the trouble is that I don’t find myself enfolded in the needed layers of group belonging with which I might naturally and seamlessly identify.
The liberals might possibly still cherish their Habits of Denial that I don’t share.
The conservatives might continue to enjoy their Habits of Belonging that I can’t claim.
As for identifying with a group whether or not such identification feels natural to me, pared down as I am, the only “group” with which right now I wholly identify –
has just one member.
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