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How A Woman Can Be Liberated

Posted on September 8, 2020 by Abigail

How A Woman Can Be Liberated When I started this column a few years ago, I vowed not to give advice. I even put that in our subtitle: “The Non-Advice Column.” So why am I about to give some? Well, … Continue reading →

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How’s the Eternal Feminine Doing These Days?

Posted on August 25, 2020 by Abigail

How’s the Eternal Feminine Doing These Days? When I started this blog – lo! some years back – I was moved by a concern about women. We are being bombarded by half-truths. And if we women start down one of … Continue reading →

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Who or What Were Adam and Eve?

Posted on August 18, 2020 by Abigail

Who or What Were Adam and Eve? Unless you believe that the entire universe actually came into being at the divine summons 5,781 years previous to the New Year of September, 2020, with the two parents of the human race … Continue reading →

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So Long As You’re Healthy

Posted on August 4, 2020 by Abigail

So Long As You’re Healthy Of course I’m not referring to the pandemic. We’re all suffering from that. I’m looking at the larger question of health — starting with my own, since I know its story best. How did … Continue reading →

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Touching Up Roots

Posted on June 2, 2020 by Abigail

Touching Up Roots Today, for the first time in my life, I’ve tried – with the help of the kit I sent for – to color my own hair. What’s the worst that could happen? I’ll come out looking like … Continue reading →

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Comprehending the Fate of Women

Posted on March 24, 2020 by Abigail

Comprehending the Fate of Women Alfred de Muset, the romantic French writer, wrote a play with the title, On ne badine pas avec l’amour, or in English, One Doesn’t Kid Around with Love. The heroine of this play speaks a … Continue reading →

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The Personal Meets the Political

Posted on March 10, 2020 by Abigail

The Personal Meets the Political I’m still reading A Dangerous Liaison, the book by Carole Seymour-Jones, about the great twentieth-century power couple, Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre. In my previous blog on them, I focused on the inconsistency between … Continue reading →

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Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir

Posted on February 25, 2020 by Abigail

Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir Talk about a Power Couple! He is responsible for the 20th-century French Existentialist claims that life is absurd, God nonexistent, we create our identities and the values we give to our projects. And she? … Continue reading →

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It’s August and My Shrink is in the Hamptons!

Posted on February 11, 2020 by Abigail

It’s August and My Shrink is in the Hamptons! There was a time in Manhattan when virtually everyone I knew was in Freud-based therapy. So people would have trouble getting through August, because that was when their shrinks were vacationing … Continue reading →

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It’s Our Twentieth!

Posted on January 21, 2020 by Abigail

It’s Our Twentieth! January 20th, 2020, is our twentieth anniversary and, over the past few days, we’ve been talking about what it all means. In our first year, when I still lived in New York and Jerry in Washington D.C., … Continue reading →

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