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Wickedness and Suffering

Posted on February 19, 2019 by Abigail

Wickedness and Suffering Does that heading about cover it? Eugene Ionesco, the brilliant Franco-Romanian playwright, wrote Tueur sans gages [Killer without wages], a play that opens with his characters marveling over the great neighborhood to which they feel fortunate to … Continue reading →

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Men on the Timeline

Posted on February 12, 2019 by Abigail

Men on the Timeline The other night I was at the Franco-Tunisian café where I go to get some of my writing done. A sizeable group had taken one side of the section where I found a round table. They … Continue reading →

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Male Gallantry

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Abigail

Male Gallantry Like Edgar Allan Poe’s Raven, here’s a topic that’s been tapping on the casement of my mind during the past few weeks. It’s reminded me of an incident that happened some years back, when I was tenured, published … Continue reading →

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Normal?

Posted on January 29, 2019 by Abigail

Normal? There were many things I wanted to be when I grew up, but one of them was NORMAL. Since the counter-culture hadn’t yet come to public notice, normal was the only option offered to young girls at that time. … Continue reading →

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Our Twentieth Wedding Anniversary

Posted on January 22, 2019 by Abigail

Our Twentieth Wedding Anniversary Today, the twentieth of January, is the actual day of our 20th wedding anniversary, though we had our celebratory dinner last Friday, after seeing the James Baldwin movie, “If Beale Street Could Talk.” At the restaurant, … Continue reading →

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Now You See It, Now You Don’t

Posted on January 15, 2019 by Abigail

Now You See It, Now You Don’t Last night I watched Renique Allen being interviewed on C-Span about her book, It Was All a Dream: A New Generation Confronts the Broken Promises to Black Americans I was utterly riveted by … Continue reading →

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The Feminine Honor

Posted on January 8, 2019 by Abigail

The Feminine Honor My recent “Me Too” experience now appears to be winding to its close with the moral fundamentals suitably restored. Since I’m a city kid, with street smarts, who had reason to believe that her life skills were … Continue reading →

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