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Speaking of Women
tell me if the lovers are losers … tell me if any get more than the lovers … in the dust … in the cool tombs. Carl Sandburg, Cool Tombs Recently a dear friend lost her beloved husband to leukemia. … Continue reading →
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Tagged after-death chores, afterlife reputation, aristocratic dress, Carl Sandburg’s Cool Tombs, childhood in hiding, college friends, college sweetheart, concealed identity, confiding one's story, confiding to women friends, creative couples, death of a husband, decoding a life, decoding a woman's life, difficulties of dying, double life, dream visitation, dream visitation from first love, dressing like a revolutionary, emotional permission, emotional truth, facing death's aftermath, feigned worldliness, forgotten loves, French Jews in World War II, French peasants paid to hide Jews, friend in mourning, Gail Godwin’s Evenings at Five, grieving husband, hidden compassion, hidden life, hidden life confused with safe life, how women talk, Jewish legend, Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking, lamed vovnik, life story confided, life's puzzle peices, living with heartbreak, marriage of artists, marriage with secrets, meaningful reunions, memoirs of widows, moral reality, mourner's chores, mourners vs bureaucracy, mutual trust, mysteries of life, novelistic, old loves uncovered, paid to hide Jews, pre-feminist America, publicity and reality are different, rabbinic legend, reality's paradoxes, recognizing lost friends, reputation change after death, story-like, testimonials to goodness, The 36 righteous, unexpected reunions, unisex misunderstandings, unliberated college girls, women as good listeners, women confiding in women, women novelists, writer's life and work
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My Defense of My Parents
My Defense of My Parents Recently I read the collected letters of Lionel Trilling. Afterward, curiosity prompted me to look in the file folder I had under that name. Trilling had been, possibly, the most influential opinion-shaper in mid-twentieth-century America. … Continue reading →
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Tagged adult children and parent friendship, anti-semitic phenomena, Clifton Fadiman, college friends, compassion, courageous love, Diana Trilling, Diana Trilling’s The Beginning of the Journey, elegy, filial piety, funeral address, Henry M. Rosenthal, historical memory, Holocaust rescue, Jewish practices, lessons from the past, Lionel Trilling, literary memoir, literary widow, male friendship, maternal devotion, moral fearlessness, moral realism, moral vision, natural coquetrie, opinion shaper, parent-child relations, parent/child obligations, Public Intellectual, recovering lost time, sense of humor, sense of self, spiritual openness, state department barriers, the rabbinate, the transcendent, tragic reality, true love, unanswered letter, wifely devotion
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Admiration
Admiration In the prison of his days Teach the free man how to praise. Despite W. H. Auden, and his poem, In Memory of W. B. Yeats, we live in a time whose typical mood is suspicion. It’s almost the … Continue reading →
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Tagged accommodation, Adam Kirsch, admiration, ambiguous, appreciation, avoiding ill will, bad checks, best friends, brothers and sisters, bungalow colony, child/parent duties, civil disobedience, Classical philosophy, college friends, concerts, counterfeit compensation, creditors, cutting a figure, deadbeat sibling, deadbeats, Diana Trilling, disambiguous, emotional debts, emotional unfairness, enabling, epistolary relationships, fairness in family, family circle, family relations, family unfairness, filial obligations, filial piety, financial debts, friendship breakup, graduate school, Henry M. Rosenthal, high culture, intellectual influence, intellectuals’ correspondence, irate creditors, legal tender, Life in Culture: Selected Letters of Lionel Trilling, Lionel Trilling, literary critic, looking like an intellectual, looking the part, love and equality, making your mark, male friendship, martyr complex, misguided fairness, mom loves you best, money, money and love, money and truth, moral imperative, New York intellectuals, only child, opinion shaping, parental favor, Paul Ricoeur, Plato, Plato’s Crito, praise, Public Intellectual, quarreling over inheritance, recitals, reprove your brother, reprove your sister, reproving the wrongdoer, righting wrongs, self-content, shirked obligations, sibling rivalry, Socrates, sour grapes, Stanley Rosen, sticking to the truth, suspicion, symbols and metaphors, the 1930’s, the Great Depression, the hermeneutics of suspicion, the rip-off, unfairness in family, unpaid debts, W. H. Auden, W.H. Auden's In Memory of W B Yeats, Watchung Mountains of New Jersey
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Close Friends
Close Friends This is one I keep revisiting. But friendship is one of life’s prime supports – almost the axis on which the whole thing turns – so one post hardly exhausts the subject. Last Sunday morning I spoke long … Continue reading →
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Tagged academia, Authenticity, best friends, biography, college friends, combat, consequences, consolation, conversation, David and Goliath, David and Jonathan, David's lament, death, dynastic succession, farmgirl, friendship, genius, heir, Henry M. Rosenthal, Heraclitus, human worth, King Saul, lament, lifelong friendship, Lionel Trilling, Lord of hosts, love, male beauty, male friendship, mediation, memory, Old Testament, personal and political, personal rift, philosophy student, Plato, playing the harp, political talent, political threat, present and future, Psalms, slingshot, Success, tape recording, The Oxford Book of English Verse: 1250-1900, William (Johnson) Cory, womanizing
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