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How I Grew Up, Eventually
Abbie at 10 on Prince. I never wanted to grow up. In fact, one of my childhood heroes was Peter Pan, the boy who never grew up. For one thing, I thought grownups were ugly. They were too big, which … Continue reading →
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Back by Popular Demand: It’s Hegel!
Back by Popular Demand: It’s Hegel! Hegel is one of the philosophers from whom I’ve learned a lot. Though he was born and died in nineteenth-century Germany, he’s still timely. In the Anglo-American sphere, the question I get is, “What’s … Continue reading →
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How’s the Eternal Feminine Doing These Days?
How’s the Eternal Feminine Doing These Days? When I started this blog – lo! some years back – I was moved by a concern about women. We are being bombarded by half-truths. And if we women start down one of … Continue reading →
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Good Philosophy Gets You to the Bathroom in Time
Good Philosophy Gets You to the Bathroom in Time In 1988, the atheist philosopher A. J. Ayer published an article for Britain’s widely read Sunday Telegraph, titled, “What I Saw When I Was Dead.” In the atheist circles in which … Continue reading →
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