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Mystical Merger and Me

Posted on September 9, 2025 by Abigail

Once childhood’s unproblematic days were gone forever, I had to face the question of how to orient myself as a young girl. For some, as I gathered from pamphlets with titles like “Growing Up and Liking It” — that particular … Continue reading →

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Must Our Stories Come Out Right?

Posted on July 11, 2023 by Abigail

In my passage from childhood to young girlhood, there were two stories I relied on for clues about the life that lay ahead of me. The first was Homer’s Odyssey. The second was Joseph and His Brothers (from Genesis 37-50) … Continue reading →

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How I Grew Up, Eventually

Posted on May 2, 2023 by Abigail

Abbie at 10 on Prince. I never wanted to grow up. In fact, one of my childhood heroes was Peter Pan, the boy who never grew up. For one thing, I thought grownups were ugly. They were too big, which … Continue reading →

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How A Woman Can Be Liberated

Posted on September 8, 2020 by Abigail

How A Woman Can Be Liberated When I started this column a few years ago, I vowed not to give advice. I even put that in our subtitle: “The Non-Advice Column.” So why am I about to give some? Well, … Continue reading →

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Paying Nostalgia Forward

Posted on February 14, 2017 by Abigail

Paying Nostalgia Forward Jerry and I celebrated our eighteenth wedding anniversary last Friday. We watched the inauguration (moving right along here), and then drove through the rain to a Hindu temple in New Jersey that the wonderful lady who runs … Continue reading →

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