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Our Twenty-Fourth Anniversary

Posted on January 24, 2023 by Abigail

As of last Friday, Jerry and I have been married for twenty-four years. By the time we met, neither of us expected to meet our true love – Mr. and Ms. Right – much less meet the way we did. … Continue reading →

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Getting Airier

Posted on January 19, 2021 by Abigail

Getting Airier A funny thing happened while I was riding California, the horse that’s smarter than I am. I’d been telling my trainer the various things I’d managed to get done while the pandemic had placed us all under house … Continue reading →

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It’s Our Twentieth!

Posted on January 21, 2020 by Abigail

It’s Our Twentieth! January 20th, 2020, is our twentieth anniversary and, over the past few days, we’ve been talking about what it all means. In our first year, when I still lived in New York and Jerry in Washington D.C., … Continue reading →

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