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Time and Me
Time and Me When I was a little girl, I didn’t worry about Time at all. I pretended I was a deer and roved the forests. I pretended I was a boy raised by wolves and roamed the jungle. Back … Continue reading
Posted in Absurdism, Academe, Action, Afterlife, Alienation, Art, Art of Living, Autonomy, beauty, Childhood, conformism, Contemplation, Contradictions, Cool, Courtship, Cultural Politics, Culture, Desire, dialectic, Erotic Life, Eternity, Existentialism, Fashion, Femininity, Feminism, Freedom, Gender Balance, Guilt and Innocence, Health, Hegel, Identity, Literature, Love, Masculinity, Memoir, memory, Moral psychology, Mortality, motherhood, novels, Ontology, Past and Future, Peace, Philosophy, politics of ideas, post modernism, Power, presence, promissory notes, Psychology, Reading, Reductionism, relationships, Renaissance, Roles, Romance, Romantic Love, Seduction, self-deception, Sex Appeal, Sexuality, social climbing, social construction, Social Conventions, social ranking, Sociobiology, spiritual journey, spiritual not religious, Spirituality, status, status of women, Suffering, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Men, The Problematic of Woman, the profane, the sacred, Time, twentieth century, twenty-first century, Work, Writing, Zeitgeist
Tagged actualization and time, adolescence, adolescent boys, believing the unbelievable, book illustration, childhood’s end, coming of age, coquetry, coquetry in Europe, filling time, Flirting, flirting in America, future, getting your work done, growing pains, growing up in America, here today gone tomorrow, hypothetical and actual, imaginary worlds, intentionality, John Tenniel, knowing what’s real, knowing who one is, learning one’s purpose, Lewis Carroll's Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll's Through the Looking Glass, life lessons, life regrets, life vocation, life’s work, Michelangelo, nostalgia, one’s calling, past, present, realization and time, running out of time, sufficient unto the day, teenage angst, temporality, the coming of reason, the lens of time, the real and the imaginary, Time, time and purpose, time flies, time of childhood, time’s wingéd chariot, to last and get your work done, wallflower, women friends, young girls in bloom
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“Intellectual Women”
“Intellectual Women” Ugh. What a subject! I guess I’m one, but it doesn’t sound like a fun topic. In college, I had hesitated before deciding to major in philosophy. Would it look mannish? Would eligible bachelors be put off? When … Continue reading
Posted in Academe, Action, Alienation, Autonomy, Chivalry, Courtship, Culture, Desire, dialectic, Erotic Life, Ethics, Fashion, Femininity, Feminism, Freedom, Friendship, Gender Balance, Guilt and Innocence, Hegel, History, history of ideas, Identity, Ideology, Institutional Power, Love, Male Power, Masculinity, master, Memoir, nineteenth-century, Philosophy, Political, Political Movements, Power, Psychology, relationships, Roles, Sex Appeal, Sexuality, Social Conventions, Sociobiology, Suffering, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Men, The Problematic of Woman, Time, twentieth century, Work, Writing, Zeitgeist
Tagged abrasive women, animal courtship, Being and Nothingness, books that change lives, Brooklyn College, co-education, coming out of the closet, discipline, dumbing down, eligible bachelors, equality of achievement, existentialism, female professor, Feminism, Flirting, freedom, gender performance, gender roles, gender-based laws, Hegel, ideology, intellectual power, Jean-Paul Sartre, male and female colleagues, male dominance, male rivalry, National Geographic, nineteenth-century philosophy, pecking order, revolutions in history, Simone de Beauvoir, sociobiology, the mating game, The Second Sex, women in philosophy
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“Learning to Ride”
“Learning to Ride” Fran, my therapeutic riding teacher, told me today that – – slow and steady – – I am putting together the different pieces of a rider’s ride. By degrees, I am getting “stabilized” in holding the position … Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Desire, dialectic, Erotic Life, Faith, Fashion, Femininity, Gender Balance, Hegel, History, Literature, Love, Male Power, Memoir, motherhood, nineteenth-century, Phenomenology of Mind, Philosophy, Power, Psychology, relationships, Roles, Sexuality, Social Conventions, Spirituality, Suffering, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Woman, Theism, Time
Tagged "Conversions: A Philosophic Memoir", adolescence, affinities, American teenagers, bescherte, Brooklyn, childhood make-believe, communist, companionship, coquetry, courtship, dating, dressage, earthiness, Flirting, gender roles, Gustave Flaubert, hamish, handicap, Hegel, identity, intellect, love, lovers, man/woman game, Marriage, Paris, partnerships, primitivity, providence, role models, Romance, sentimental education, spirituality, student demonstrations, the 60s, the counterculture, therapeutic riding, Yiddish
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“Seduction”
“Seduction” Thanks to the “most interesting man in the world,” pictured above in the ad for Mexican beer, I don’t have to explain what I mean by “seduction.” Look deeply and fixedly into his eyes, ladies, and tell me nothing … Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Desire, Erotic Life, Femininity, Feminism, Gender Balance, history of ideas, Literature, Masculinity, Philosophy, Political, Psychology, relationships, Sexuality, Social Conventions, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Woman
Tagged classical antiquity, coquetry, courting, Creator, Flirting, girl, God, intimacy, Knesset, love, Marriage, Rabbi, relationships, Roman, Romance, seduction, sex, suitor, the most interesting man in the world, vulnerability, woman
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