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Monthly Archives: January 2019
Normal?
Normal? There were many things I wanted to be when I grew up, but one of them was NORMAL. Since the counter-culture hadn’t yet come to public notice, normal was the only option offered to young girls at that time. … Continue reading
Posted in Absolute freedom and terror, Absurdism, Academe, Action, Alienation, American Politics, Anthropology, Art of Living, Autonomy, bureaucracy, Childhood, Chivalry, Cities, Class, conformism, Contradictions, Cool, Courage, Courtship, Cultural Politics, Culture, Desire, dialectic, Erotic Life, Ethics, Evil, Existentialism, exploitation, Faith, Fashion, Femininity, Feminism, Freedom, Friendship, Gender Balance, glitterati, Guilt and Innocence, Health, hegemony, Heroes, hidden God, hierarchy, history of ideas, ID, Idealism, Ideality, Identity, Ideology, Idolatry, Immorality, Institutional Power, Jews, Law, Legal Responsibility, life and death struggle, Literature, Love, Male Power, Martyrdom, Masculinity, master, master/slave relation, Memoir, memory, Mind Control, Modernism, Moral action, Moral evaluation, Moral psychology, morality, Mortality, Oppression, Past and Future, Peace, Philosophy, Political, Political Movements, politics of ideas, post modernism, Power, presence, promissory notes, Propaganda, Psychology, public facade, Public Intellectual, Race, Reductionism, relationships, Religion, Roles, Romance, Romantic Love, scientism, secular, Seduction, self-deception, Sex Appeal, Sexuality, slave, social climbing, social construction, Social Conventions, social ranking, Sociobiology, spiritual journey, spiritual not religious, Spirituality, status, status of women, Suffering, Terror, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Men, The Problematic of Woman, the profane, the sacred, Theism, Theology, twenty-first century, victimhood, victims, Violence, Work, Writing, Zeitgeist
Tagged absolutely normal, abuse and harassment therapy, acupuncture, adventures and misadventures, body language, camel hair coats, category mistake, Chinese Herbal treatment, college co-eds, college romance, cultural expectations, cultural norms, culture and counterculture, defensible life, dream verdict, dream vision, equine coach, experiments with truth, featureless normality, French womanly wisdom, horse sense, horse talk, ideals for young girls, inhabiting one’s body, inhabiting one’s intentions, massage therapy, Me Too, medical checkup, movie stars, Normal, normality, norms, other-directedness, peripheral neuropathy, personal repair, pretended adoration, primary care physician, Princeton town, Princeton University, public approval, qualitative norms, realized intentions, Smith girls, social kiss of death, statistical averages, wisdom figure
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Now You See It, Now You Don’t
Now You See It, Now You Don’t Last night I watched Renique Allen being interviewed on C-Span about her book, It Was All a Dream: A New Generation Confronts the Broken Promises to Black Americans I was utterly riveted by … Continue reading
Posted in "Absolute Freedom and Terror", Absurdism, Academe, Action, Alienation, American Politics, Anthropology, Art, Art of Living, Autonomy, beauty, Bible, Biblical God, books, Chivalry, Christianity, Cities, Class, conformism, Contemplation, Contradictions, Cool, Courage, Courtship, Cultural Politics, Culture, Desire, dialectic, Erotic Life, Eternity, Ethics, Evil, Existentialism, exploitation, Faith, Fashion, Femininity, Feminism, Freedom, Friendship, Gender Balance, glitterati, Gnosticism, Guilt and Innocence, Health, hegemony, Heroes, hidden God, hierarchy, History, history of ideas, ID, Idealism, Ideality, Identity, Ideology, Idolatry, Immorality, Institutional Power, Jews, Journalism, Judaism, Law, Legal Responsibility, life and death struggle, Literature, Love, Male Power, Martyrdom, Masculinity, master, master/slave relation, Memoir, memory, Mind Control, Modernism, Moral action, Moral evaluation, Moral psychology, morality, motherhood, non-violence, Ontology, Oppression, pacifism, Past and Future, Peace, Philosophy, Political Movements, politics, politics of ideas, post modernism, Power, presence, promissory notes, Propaganda, Psychology, public facade, Public Intellectual, Race, radicalism, Reading, Reductionism, relationships, Religion, Roles, Romance, Romantic Love, secular, Seduction, self-deception, Sex Appeal, Sexuality, social climbing, social construction, Social Conventions, social ranking, spiritual journey, spiritual not religious, Spirituality, status, status of women, Suffering, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Men, The Problematic of Woman, the profane, the sacred, Theism, Theology, Time, TV, twenty-first century, victimhood, victims, Violence, War, Work, Writing, Zeitgeist
Tagged American origins, American West, being black, Biblical covenant, biblical Israel, biblical Israel and its neighbors, biblical narratives, black culture in the South, black incarceration, C-Span interview, Chaim N. Saiman’s Halakhah: The Rabbinic Idea of Law, communal consensus, dating pool, defacing the divine image, defending the Shekinah, defense of the feminine, demoralized men, divine feminine, Divine Presence, eligible black men, eligible men, erotic color lines, erotic predicament, erotic problematic in minority communities, explaining the Exile, Idolatry, Jehudim, Jewish survival, Lakota princess, Lakota warrior, love after lockup, millennials, models for healthy relationships, murder, Native American culture, parental couple, portable laws, promised land, rabbinic Judaism, racial bottleneck, refusal to compromise, relationship training, Renique Allen’s It Was All a Dream: A New Generation Confronts the Broken Promises to Black Americans, residential segregation, reverse migration, segregation in the North, self-revelation, sexual immorality, shared history, Shekinah, sin as an explanation, single parent homes, social grouping, social segregation, strategic vulnerability, the American South, the divine image, the First Exile, the Jewish assignment in history, the Mayflower, the religion of Israel, the Sanhedrin, the Second Exile, unfair imprisonment, unfair sentencing, what the hell it’s home, white liberals, white radicals, woman’s place in Israel, woman’s place in Judaism
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The Feminine Honor
The Feminine Honor My recent “Me Too” experience now appears to be winding to its close with the moral fundamentals suitably restored. Since I’m a city kid, with street smarts, who had reason to believe that her life skills were … Continue reading
Posted in "Absolute Freedom and Terror", Absurdism, Action, Alienation, American Politics, Art of Living, Autonomy, Biblical God, bureaucracy, Chivalry, Class, conformism, Contemplation, Contradictions, Cool, Courage, Courtship, cults, Cultural Politics, Culture, Desire, dialectic, eighteenth century, Erotic Life, Eternity, Ethics, Evil, Existentialism, exploitation, Faith, Fashion, Femininity, Feminism, Freedom, Friendship, Gender Balance, glitterati, Guilt and Innocence, Health, hegemony, Heroes, hidden God, hierarchy, History, history of ideas, ID, Idealism, Ideality, Identity, Ideology, Idolatry, Immorality, Institutional Power, Jews, Journalism, Judaism, Legal Responsibility, life and death struggle, Literature, Love, Male Power, Martyrdom, Masculinity, Memoir, memory, Mind Control, Modernism, Moral action, Moral evaluation, Moral psychology, morality, Oppression, Past and Future, Peace, Poetry, Political Movements, politics, politics of ideas, post modernism, Power, presence, promissory notes, Propaganda, Psychology, public facade, Public Intellectual, relationships, Religion, Roles, Romance, Romantic Love, Romanticism, secular, Seduction, self-deception, Sex Appeal, Sexuality, slave, social climbing, social construction, Social Conventions, social ranking, spiritual journey, spiritual not religious, Spirituality, status, status of women, Suffering, The Examined Life, The Problematic of Men, The Problematic of Woman, the profane, the sacred, Theism, Time, TV, twenty-first century, victimhood, victims, Work, Writing, Zeitgeist
Tagged a fight with your name on it, Alfred de Musset’s Les Caprices de Marianne, anti-slavery, chivalrous sentiments, chivalry, chivalry ridiculed, disrespect for women, Edmund Burke’s Reflections on the Revolution in France, equal pay for equal work, feminine honor, feminist friends, first rodeo, getting thrown, ignoble conduct, le sort des femmes, manliness, Marie Antoinette the English and the French, Me Too, Me Too Movement, moral basis, moral combat, moral fundamentals, moral order, noble conduct, political combat, political war wounds, repairing the world, right to drive, right to vote, saving the environment, the destiny of women, the Free French, the Haganah, the Spanish Republic, Theatre national populaire, thwarted chivalry, TNP, unworthy conduct, women’s fate, world wide slavery
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It’s Personal
It’s Personal Over the last few weeks, I’ve been confronting a shift of mood that’s quite rare for me. The name of this mood is Despair. As a person who’s talked two women friends out of suicide – don’t worry, … Continue reading
